Denial

31 Oct

The first step in becoming a Wedding Rebel is shedding your denial and accepting the fact that you have been trained to be a wedding zombie from the moment you held your first bridal Barbie™.  Or maybe it was the first time you purchased that thick bridal magazine.  Perhaps, even the first five hours you spent on a wedding website.  Like the zombies in the horror films, evil lurks around every corner.  Don’t let the pretty magazine model in the Vera Wang dress fool you.  You do not have to spend your entire life savings on silk and tulle to have an amazing marriage celebration.

 Perhaps one of the first documented wedding rebels, Dorothy Dix, illustrates this fact perfectly in her 1926 book, Her Book; Every Day Help for Every Day People.  She boldly stated, “…by the time she is ten years old, the average girl has begun planning her wedding and deciding whether she will have a big church affair with ushers, flower girls and ring bearers and maids and matron of honor and bridesmaids and a white satin dress and a real lace veil, and all the other flub-dubs, or whether she will be married at home under floral canopy, with an admiring audience fenced off from her by white ribbons.  Only to realize in this ten minute splurge she is ready to ruthlessly ruin her family and half kill herself.  If she doesn’t get it, she goes through life feeling that she has missed her big moment.”  Miss Dorothy predicted the birth of stressed, angry brides (aka, bridezillas) nearly ninety years ago!  Pay heed to her tale as most engaged couples never recover from their denial.  They deny reality and choose to remain ignorant.  They see nothing wrong with decorating their reception hall to copy Hillary Duff’s wedding.  They don’t even blink an eye when asked to spend thousands of dollars on a cake, invitations or wilting flowers.

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